When we are young we are often told by our parents to tell the truth. What they should have shared with us was to tell them the truth but be careful of how you say your truth to others.
We had one house rule which was always policed in our home and it was to tell the truth no matter how difficult for the speaker; or the recipient. We could get away with all sorts of misdemeanors so long as we told the truth. As an adult, I have found that many are not interested in the truth. Their hearts and minds prefer a sugar-coated explanation in line with their perception and perspective. The truth is deemed too harsh, too direct. It’s as if many will swallow a bit of stale cake so long as the icing is thick and tasty.
For someone with my upbringing, the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth is the only way I know. As you can imagine, my path of honesty has got me into a lot of hot water.
I often playback the courtroom scene in, “A Few Good Men” where Jack Nicholson barks at Tom Cruise, “You can’t handle the truth.” And it’s true, many can’t handle truth. In questioning why, I’ve found it’s often because another’s truth and what another perceives differs. So I ask myself, what then is truth?
To me, truth is facts, actions, events told exactly as they appear. Is it that which is true or in accordance with fact or reality. But each of us has our own reality so truth is in accordance with fact and the viewers or listeners reality. Truth then becomes warped because your perception and mine may differ.
When researching truth I was directed to various religious sites. I was unaware that speaking the truth was a religious ideology as I thought of the truth as a human concept.
What I have found to be more consistent than the truth is a fact or belief that is accepted as true. Your truth is true to you and my truth is truthful to me but, and it’s a big but, if the your truth and my truth differ, then what is the truth? Or if our facts and beliefs are the same, then our facts and beliefs are accepted as true and only then does it become true, but only to those who are in agreement with our truth.
Regardless if something is true, one must make others accept the facts or events as truth in order for them to become as accepted as true.
Aha! At last, I have found a way to stay out of the dog house when telling the truth. I have to make sure I warp and lie about the truth well enough that others believe it as true. Do you think this is true?